In the age of instant gratification, it’s hard to remain focused, and not get distracted by the idea that the grass is always greener on the other side. I too have fell into the trap of comparison, and sometimes let it get the best of me.
It’s hard sometimes to remind ourselves to take a step back, breathe, and let it all in, even in the worst of moments. I find myself in preparation for one of the hardest things I might have to experience in life, but also one of the greatest pleasures. Are you familiar with the expression, without suffering there would be no compassion? I try to remind myself that if I can get through this moment, which may feel like the end of the world, then I know, once it’s over, I’ll be able to breathe again. Everything is temporary, and nothing is permanent. At any given moment our lives can change, and that’s scary to think about. Let’s try not to focus on the negative though, and just remember that soon enough, even the worst of times, will all blow over.
It’s true that we never stop learning. Even if we think we know everything, we don’t. At 30, I’m still learning and even re-learning, and re-educating myself on things I thought I knew, and things I may have forgot. Education is so powerful, and I never want to lose my thirst for knowledge. It’s a gift, and we use should use it.
I’ve come to the realization, that I’ve never been fully satisfied by societal norms, in addition to things that I should be thankful, and grateful for, I find myself in contempt. My husband and I have been moving, a lot. We’re readying up for our sixth move, and at this point I’m considered an expert. We’re serial renters. I’m constantly yearning for things we don’t have, expecting to have it all. I know this isn’t reality, and it sounds like a selfish perspective. I think what I’ve come to realize more so, is that I’ve never fully prepared myself for the changes that we so often make in our lives. I’m a planner by nature, but, it doesn’t mean that I don’t forget the details sometimes. I take a long time to really contemplate things before making a choice, and even if that choice took me one year, I wouldn’t be fully confident that the choice I made was the right one, and that it wouldn’t come with consequences or regrets. Does this sound like you? Cool, I’m not alone.
So how can we practice grace in mediocrity? Well, for starters, positive affirmations have been working wonders for me. I try to visualize my future a little bit better in alignment with the things that I want, and then I set intentions for how I can achieve those goals. Dreams will only be that if you don’t chase them. I used to feel guilty for not being appreciative, but I’ve learned that it’s not selfish to fully know and understand yourself and what it is you want out of life. You are the only person who holds responsibility for your own actions and life choices. Even if the world gives you lemons, you better add some sugar and make some lemonade, because its unavoidable to have negative people in your circle, even if its the stranger at the grocery who is giving you the side eye because of what you’re wearing, or how you’re so frustrated for the day that you can’t hold your tongue. Only we can choose whether or not we want to let these actions of others affect us or not. We can keep it, and hold on it as a grudge, or we can choose to be better and to do better, and to let it go. The choice is yours.
It’s taken me a long time to realize these things, but I’m sharing with you now in hopes that they might help you too. Learn to bloom where you are planted, and grow. Heal yourself, empower others. Make sure to listen to your body and its needs. Health and wellness come in all shapes, sizes, and forms. Both mental and physical wellbeing are important for growth. Let’s rise up, and grow from the dirt, and all become that beautiful wildflower we are all meant to be.